I have a bone to pick with you. Not out of hatred or spite, but out of awareness, love, and general over all information. The other day, when I and my husband showed up at your office for help with our marriage,us sometimes married couples need help or guidance especially when you have had a loss like ours. We showed up looking for a third person who wouldn't judge or make assumptions, but instead we were welcomed with red flags.
When you have a loss, You sometimes have these gut feelings and red flags. I am normally an open person, like I will tell anyone who will listen, but you didn't give me that feeling, I couldn't tell you that we chose life for your daughter whom might not make it but we did and then she didn't. Or that sometimes that grief makes it hard for me to explain to my Husband what I'm feeling. Or that sometimes if feel judged by people like you who jump to conclusions over one heated argument, that yes might have went a little farther but it scared us both. Like we hate fighting HATE IT!But what you did, without finding out more information, talk to us more, jumped the gun and reported it to CPS.
If you knew what it felt like to have PTSD from loosing a child, you would have talk to us more. Found out Prior information... I don't know about our marriage, our relationship, our DAUGHTER!! The very threat of having the boys in which we worked so hard to have, the boys that mean more than your future kids(might). Our Boys are our reason we live. For you, to even consider it before find out any underlining information is WRONG!
We, reached out to YOU, as a professional. YOU as a trusted Member to HELP us. And you broke that trust by simply reporting it.
The Very thought of having CPS come in and judge everything in my life, made me have flash backs to loosing my daughter.Made me want to run far away and hide out. I hope and Pray that you and your newly married wife, NEVER EVER are in our position where you've lost and you have someone like you threaten CPS on you. I hope you never loos a child much less have PTSD from loosing that child. I understand you want to protect our Children and I get that. But find out more information before you go and say one thing and do another.
My Children are well taken care of. I love them more than you'll ever fathom. The are the reason I BREATH.
ASK questions, FIND out background information and most importantly HAVE COMPASSION!!
I do understand your position, but in 20 minutes you assumed the worst. I thank you for that. I have gone to counseling on and off for the past 4 years. I know what the typical session run like and this by far was WAY different. For me not to open up about my family life, my kids, my DAUGHER, my career.... Makes me wonder what stopped me. I'm an Open book, I'll speak about my daughter till im blue in the face. But i didn't..... and I'm Glad.So please Mister Sir have some compassion for things you don't( and we wouldn't EVER want you to) understand!
Love
A wife and Mother
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