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Friday, October 11, 2013

Capture Your Grief- 2013

Day 2: IDENETIY 

My name is kennedy fallyn Thomas-Fuller, born july 5th at 3:28pm. I was nammed after my gret grandfather Kenneth Fallin. I was a very strong little girl. Until my parents told me I didnt have to be.


 Day 3:: MYTHS
Time heals ALL wounds!!

Who ever said that should have added "except when you loose a child!" Time doesn't heal the hole in my heart. Time cant heal the hole in our family. Time cant fix the grandparents need to fix us. Time is merely a number on a clock. Time cant bring MY daughter back. Time can't show Jimmie how loved he is by his sister. Time CANT HEAL ALL WOUNDS.
Day 4:: Legacy 

DO i believe Kennedy left a legacy? Yes she lets people know they aren't along and yes you can do anything. She allows other parents get in touch with us. She left a simple but meaningful legacy
5 MEMORY:::

what memory come up when you think about you child? 
Her searching the room for us when we entered. They had her head towards the door so she couldnt see out but everytime a new person enter her room she knew.
Day 6: Ritual 

My ritual since kennedy, watching michael and jimmie sleep and breath. its just habit, a habit i am not willing to break

Day 7::You Now: Where are you in your grief right now? How are you feeling? How far have you come? Are you wrestling with anything? Is your heart heavier or lighter now?

~In my grief i have come to terms with the fact i will always live with it. I will have good days and bad. I have come to terms with the fact MY BABY isn't coming home. I have come to terms with the fact she finished her journey. I have come so far compared to last year. I smile a bit more without feeling like i shouldn't. In a year i learned who my true friends are. I try to find the positive within anything. Every day is a blessing and should be treated as such.
Day 8:: Colour: What colour/s do you represent your baby? Why that colour/s?

Red without a doubt. Why??? red is passion, strength, and courage. All words that describe kennedy

Day 9: Music::: This might be hard to capture in a photograph so why not post a youtube clip of a piece of music that reminds your of your baby/ies/child/ren. Why this piece of music?

How can you pick just one. But this song says it all. While we had the choise of aborting Kennedy. We choose to carry to term and give her life. Yes there were pictures we didnt get to take but when its my time what will those pictures mean. I will spend my eternity with my daughter. Why this one? Because the word have never been truer

Day 10: Beliefs: Do you have a certain belief about what happens to us after we die? You might believe that we go to a heaven or you might believe that our bodies eventually turn to dust and that is the end of our story.

I personally believe in a HIGHER POWER. I believe that there is a Heaven (just beyond the clouds before you get to space-- For Easy G). I believe that because Kennedy knew nothing else but love she is there waiting(probably not so patient). I picture her there surrounded by friends and family. I picture her questioning everything.
With my journey as a Heart mom, I have had to have FAITH. Faith in drs, faith in nurses, Faith in myself as a new mom. Faith in GOD. I have had to learn to trust in him that i can do it no matter how much i want to quiet. Since Kennedy, Faith and Beliefs are two words that i use to describe our journey.




Day 11. Emotional Triggers: What triggers emotions associated with grief for you? Is it the weather? A scent? Photos? Places? Holidays? Words? Certain people?

Triggers, Little girls things. Bow, socks, Snow white costume....yes i had plans on her being snow white. I cry when i hear twinkle twinkle little star, why, Its a song we sang to her in my belly and in the hospital. It became a staple that even her nurses would sing it to her to get her to settle. I crumble when i smell her, yes its possbile, its just a light "heavenly" scent......It hard to show jimmie his sissy through pictures when other kids have their older siblings. One day i am afriad he will become ashamed and try to hide the fact that his older sister is in Heaven. Holidays....4th of july.... she was/is our firecracker and that was HER DAY and she knew it. As for people.....little girls around her age is hard to see.