Trusting?????

Lately i have thought long and hard about trust.
     Can i "make" someone trust me?
     How can i promise something and not "TRUST" that person?

Between mother-in-laws and brother-in-laws I am having a hard time trusting people. Dont get me wrong I love my Husband, but his "Real" family is alittle hard to believe that he is realated to them. His mother is a Strong woman for raising two amazing and strong men, but there comes a point in which you need to let them "fly and FALL". I know i am not a mother yet but coming from an inoccent by stander(at on point). Dont get me wrong my mother in law was great....in the begganing.....then when it came down to the "I'll except what ever you, my son, chooses", she wasnt there. My husband has always been a sensitive to others feelings, and wether or not they accept him and i know for a FACT this hurt. It was all over a "simple" name change, in which he was planning on using her dads( her maiden name) and his uncles last names. But because of previous altercations with My mother-in-law i knew that him including his uncle last name would be hard for her to swallow. My husband biological dad(since i had been in the picture) had never once contacted him, yes the phone goes both ways but it would have been nice to see him take the leap. After me and his bio-dad had an altercation, My husband had dedecided it was time to make a change.

Here came WW3. IT BLEW WAY TO FAR UP.

My husbands family could understand WHY? Did he have no pride? Was Cassie forsing his hand? why NOW? I just knew those were the questions flying around. My husband-Michael- had explained it a million and one times WHY he was doing it. Certian people, i felt like, blamed ME. beacause i had the altercation with michaels bio-dad and things were said in which i cant change. But Michael had been thinking about this long before ME. But because i told him we could do it if he really wanted to, He finally agreed. I told him that if he was going to change his name atleast do it before we got married( at the time the wedding wasnt until december), so i didnt have to change my name twice. That was, and still is, the only stipulation i put on the name change.

I have always been a people pleaser. I grew up with a mom AND a dad. so for Michael not HAVE both i just had so many questions, in which he was happy to answer. I really didnt want him to make his mom angry but if it made MICHAEL happy i was ALLL about it. He deserved to be happy and not have a question about HIS identity. So when his mother AND BROTHER (which i never saw coming) both refused to Try to accept his desion, it hurt me. I wanted everyone to try to accept what MICHAEL wanted to do for a change. I mean his brother did run away and get married, without family, and michael was beganning to accept that fact. It was hard trust me watching my husband go though a BIG change in his life where HIS FAMILY could or didnt want to try to accept HIS DECSION.

Today, i still HOPE for her and his brother to come around, not only for Michaels sake but for our unborn daughter. Kennedy deserves a "FAMILY" but i dont want them there out of obligation. I dont want my daughter to be their obligation. I guess in the end i just have to wait and see, I mean my mother-in-law wants to help buy kennedy her crib.

Should i trust her enough to know that there wont be a quid-pro-quo situation here?
Can I trust her enough to know that if i or my husband say something wrong she wont through it back in our faces?

I JUST WISH I COULD FULLY TRUST IN THE GOOD OF PEOPLE!!!!